Seven ways to solve an affair
Calm down: When the spouse has an affair, it will inevitably turn around, the heart is broken, and the suffering is unbearable.
In this situation, it is easiest to make the original team lose their senses, as if headless flies are scrambling.
In fact, the most important thing at this time is to calm down first and analyze how it happened?
How serious is the relationship between the two of them?
What is the thrust and attraction between each other?
One cry, two troubles, and three hangings may not be useful, but it will make your spouse more and more alienated from you.
If crying can make your spouse feel guilty, of course, crying is the way to win.
The problem is that crying too much has no practical effect at all, and it may have adverse effects.
Noisy and often spouses are upset.
I can’t stand it, and I don’t want to go home, so the effect is not good.
Even if you hang, even if you unfortunately let go, the happiest is your love rival, so don’t use this strategy.
Never lightly give up marriage, or have plans to be beautiful.
Do n’t forget that if you give up your marriage, the unfortunate thing in the future is not your spouse, but you.
In light of divorce, the innocent children will suffer the most, and you will have countless booing and loneliness in the future.
Distinguished people will never give up marriage, not only give themselves more room to work, but also let third parties know that their future is less promising.
Because they cannot marry in the future, it can also be a factor in their quarrel.
Don’t cry everywhere.
Generally the most common is that the so-called spouse is not.
He even complained to his neighbors, expressed affection to his parents, and even complained to his spouse’s boss.
Quite ambitious determination.
The problem is that in this state of torn face, only by making the spouse less face-to-face and no step down, the chance of turning back is relatively reduced.
Taking a back seat, learning tolerance and forgiveness may make it easier for a spouse to turn back.
In the quarrel stage of husband and wife, Yuanpei is unreasonable. When the spouse is not, the spouse increases the “criminal feeling”. When this sense of crime cannot be ruled out, the affair is prone to “do not do it, do not stop,Anyway, everyone is in trouble, and I have nothing to keep.
On the contrary, tolerance, forgiveness, and patience can make your spouse feel “guilty”. I feel sorry for you and do not dare to hurt you. These methods are suction.
Although it is difficult for Yuanpei to reach these ideals in an unbearable state, in order to take the overall situation into consideration, it is best to work in this direction.
In order to “punish” a spouse for having an affair, he went to find an affair and thought of revenge. This is the most stupid act in dealing with an affair.
The fundamental problem cannot be solved, the relationship between the two people is more serious, it is intensified and inevitably exists, and unmatched rights and interests (such as alimony, child living expenses, and even the “possibility” in front of morals) have completely disappeared, and they have been laughed at.Never try it.
Don’t quarrel in front of children.
Children are the most innocent victims.
During the quarrel, the most common phenomenon between husband and wife is to use material benefits to buy the child, hoping that the child will stand by him. Another common phenomenon is to expose the shortcomings of the spouse so that the child can understand the truth of the matter.
In this way, the child not only learns to sacrifice adults for material benefits, but also psychologically feels engulfed on both sides. The most serious consequences lead to the child’s confusion, inferiority and discomfort, and the child’s psychological imbalance.Disputes, especially affair issues, should be avoided.